what do you want?

We all have stuff about our lives that we don't love.  It's probably really easy for you to come up with a list of all the stuff you'd like to change.  Maybe even your conversations are dominated by all the stuff you are dissatisfied with.

This is the nature of being human.  Constantly growing and evolving and striving for something different, something better.  So if change is part of our natural process, why does it seem so difficult sometimes to make those changes?  To change the things we say we don't like about ourselves or our lives? We feel stuck.

This is when clients come to me, when they are feeling stuck.  Stuck in a situation they have tried and tried to change but just can't seem to make it happen.  Or they make a little progress and then nothing.

After hearing about their situation, my first question is always, "What do you want instead?"  99.9% of the time the answer is, "Well I don't want this" or "I don't want to feel this way".  Asking again, "So what do you want instead?"  I'm usually met with a blank stare.  Can you see the problem here?  If you don't even know what it is you want, how can you change it?  We need a clear direction to move in.  Without it, we will always stay in the same place or be forced to move in a direction we don't want to go.

So, what do YOU want?  If you didn't have the stress, anxiety, extra weight, health issues, etc. what would you have instead?  And be careful here... simply saying "I want less stress" or "less" anything doesn't cut it.  If, on a scale of 1-10 your stress is a 10, by saying you want less stress can mean a 9.  Why not have no stress?  Maybe you feel it's not possible or out of your control.  That's a whole other topic we'll visit another day.  For today, instead of stressed, how about peace, calm, or total sense of well-being?  Notice how different you might feel even thinking this way.  Try it "I would like to feel a sense of peace in my mind and body" and...breathe....

Whatever it is you are wanting to change, this is the first step to moving you in the direction you want to go...knowing where it is you want to go.

So what do YOU want?

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